Morning again, and with my coffee beside me come thoughts of the Oskar Series understanding – how we meet, learn, and grow as adults. The two lamps that once belonged to my grandmother cast a warm light in the darkness. The cat is outside, the house still asleep, and the morning is calm.
Today I will wrap the Christmas gifts my daughter and I bought in Ullared – a day filled with laughter, bargains, and reflection. At the same time, my thoughts wander to the Oskar Series understanding and adult responsibility – how we, as adults, can meet children with empathy and help them grow in their abilities.
This post is a personal reflection, inspired by experiences and thoughts about adult responsibility and the way we meet others. It is not about a specific event, but about the inner process that awakens when we want to protect – and then realize how important it is to meet with calm and understanding.
A Day in Ullared
The trip to Ullared became more than just shopping. We found shoes, clothes, boots, and gifts – almost everything ready for December. I even made a real find: a pair of Sketchers boots that usually cost around 1,500 SEK, but there – only 800. They were so comfortable that it was impossible not to buy them.
My little boy got new pajamas, clothes, and a cap that made him happy. My little girl received a few small Christmas gifts and a pair of cool boots. It was a long day – we left home at seven in the morning and didn’t return until nine in the evening. But now almost all the gifts are wrapped, and the feeling of being prepared brings a quiet peace.
Have you ever felt that mix of exhaustion and gratitude after a long, good day?
When the Tiger in Me Awoke – a Thought on the Oskar Series and Adult Responsibility
In the middle of everyday joy, something unexpected happened. An email, not particularly kind, awakened something inside me – the tiger. Suddenly, all the children I’ve ever met stood before me. Not only my own, but also the young people I’ve had the privilege to work with over the years.
It was about understanding and adult responsibility. About how adults sometimes put the blame on children – as if they alone carried the weight of what went wrong. I felt my whole being rise up. For me, it’s clear that when we work with children, we adults always carry the greatest responsibility. We are the ones who must see, listen, and understand.
Children don’t misbehave out of malice. They act in the only way they can – based on their experiences, their capacities, and the safety or uncertainty that adults have created around them. Do you recognize that feeling, when your concern for a child wakes the lion within you?
Afterward – Oskar Series, Understanding, and Adult Responsibility
In hindsight, I regret my own behavior. I let the tiger take over and, for a moment, forgot my responsibility as an adult. I should have stood firmer in myself and spoken about what really matters – the adult responsibility. To create conditions for children to grow in their ability, not to remind them of what they cannot yet do.
In reflection, I see how I would rather have met the situation with a calm, soft voice. I wish I had said:
“I want us to find solutions. How can we, together, help, see, and allow the child to grow? What can I do to make things easier? What is my responsibility?”
I wish I had offered to come, to explain what works and what doesn’t. I wish I had said:
“We’re doing this together. I am in my role and you in yours – is there something we can do to make the path easier?”
Being an adult means carrying the ultimate responsibility: to meet children with respect, patience, and belief in their potential.
At the same time, I believe reflection is something we all need – even the other adult in that situation. Sometimes we are so busy defending our own perspective that we forget to pause, breathe, and see the child together. I should have invited the other person into the dance of reflection – that quiet movement where curiosity replaces defense. But I didn’t. Perhaps it’s because I haven’t yet learned to dance, and that’s exactly what I need to practice.
When I read that email, I suddenly saw all the children I’ve met – those who struggled, those who carried heavy things. I could almost feel them standing behind me, whispering: Don’t forget us. Keep speaking for us. That’s what the Oskar Series, understanding, and adult responsibility is really about – seeing the child behind each reaction and realizing that we all have something to learn.
Oskar Knocks Again! Oskar Series, Understanding, and Adult Responsibility in Everyday Life
All these words – they’re really about little Oskar. You know, Oskar from the NPF & School series, now resting for a while. Maybe it’s him knocking again? Perhaps it’s time to continue writing – about how important it is that we adults take our responsibility, dare to see the child behind the behavior, and stay present in the meeting.
How often do your own “Oskar moments” knock at the door? Those moments when your heart says: See the child behind the words.
Sometimes our strongest reactions don’t come from anger but from love – from the wish to protect. Yet the way back to calm reminds me of something even more important: even adults, just like in the Oskar Series, understanding, and adult responsibility, must keep practicing how to grow.
Between the Lines
When calm returns and the tiger within me rests, I see that it’s not about winning a war, but about understanding why we react as we do – and what that reveals about what we care to protect. It also reminds me that my own reaction must remain calm. For all the children who once stood before me, hoping I would keep fighting for them – I need that calm. Because it’s in calmness that the real work can be done, it’s there that change begins.
Reflection
Now the coffee stands beside me again. The soft glow from my grandmother’s lamps fills the room. The day lies untouched before me, with wrapping paper and ribbons waiting. Outside, the sky begins to brighten.
Maybe it’s Oskar whispering: See me, understand me – I’m just trying to make it through another day. And I whisper back: I’ll keep practicing being the adult – the one who helps you grow. That’s part of the Oskar Series, understanding, and adult responsibility – a daily exercise in seeing, understanding, and growing together.
What This Taught Me
This meeting – between emotion and responsibility – became a reminder that calm isn’t always there from the start, but it can always be found again. I learned that adults, too, need to keep practicing how to grow, to face their own reactions, and to choose presence instead of defense. Perhaps it’s right there, in the stillness after the storm, that real learning happens – for both the children and for us adults.
Live today, right now. The day before yesterday was the tiger, yesterday the reflection, today the action, and tomorrow will be the rest. Maybe I’ve already learned something – perhaps even right now.
This text is a personal reflection, not a description of any specific person, place, or situation. Its purpose is to inspire understanding and shared responsibility in how we meet children.
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