This is my story. ADHD in everyday life is my reality – as a mother, grandmother, and everyday anchor. It is also a story about hugs that linger in the heart, about the ability to forgive, and about the strength to stand firm – even when life puts me to the test. Above all, it is a story about love, because that is what I choose, every single day.
This post is personal. I share my story – not because I have all the answers, but because words sometimes become my way forward. ADHD is part of my life, and here I write as a mother, grandmother, and everyday anchor right in the middle of daily life.
Words are a way forward – but so are colors. Just like writing, my painting is a way to sort feelings and find breathing space.The lines form a pattern of thoughts – structure in the middle of chaos
A mother’s story of ADHD in everyday life
This is my story. About ADHD, about being a mother to adult children, and about the longing I carry as a grandmother at a distance. It is also a story about hugs that remain in the heart, about the ability to forgive, and about the strength to stand firm – even when life tests me. Above all, it is a story about love, because that is what I choose, every single day.
A mother’s story of living with ADHD
Living with ADHD means that my everyday life sometimes turns into a roller coaster. As a mother, it’s doubled – I carry both my own inner chaos and the responsibility for my family. It is tiredness, energy, laughter, and frustration, all tangled together.
At the same time, I have a greater understanding of what it feels like on the inside, how full of emotions one can be. When I am happy, it bubbles through my entire body. When I am sad, I cry uncontrollably. When I am angry, it is hard to stop.
There are days when the sounds are too loud, the demands too many, and my strength runs out before the day has even begun. Sometimes I end up lying in front of movie after movie without even knowing what I am watching – those days I do not like. But when I manage to do everything – and a little bit more – then I love the day more than anything else.
Mother, grandmother, and the longing from a distance
I am a mother to adult children. I am also a grandmother – but right now a grandmother at a distance. It isn’t far in miles, but still I don’t stand in the middle of their everyday life. That hurts, but I try to find ways to live in acceptance.
A hug that lingers in the heart
Family is important to me – it is us against the world, somehow. Last Thursday we went to deliver presents to one of my grandchildren. It wasn’t the actual birthday party day, but to avoid stirring things up it felt better to give the presents on another day. That way it wouldn’t be too much all at once.
When we stood there on the doorstep before the door opened, I felt cold inside. My heart beat faster than usual. I was afraid. Afraid of the reactions that might come. Afraid that the presents were wrong, that I would be rejected, that my gifts wouldn’t count.
But then the door opened. When I saw how happy she became with the presents, warmth spread through my entire body. That warmth carried like sparks all the way to my fingertips. And when we were leaving, I received a hug – one of those real hugs that gets stuck in the heart. I held her a little longer, as if to embrace all the days we hadn’t seen each other. I wished time could stop right there. That we could stay, close together, without letting go.
That hug stays with me still, even though days have passed.
For me, presents are more than gifts – they are my way of saying: I remain, I love you, I want to be close even when I am not always allowed to be. How I wish things were different. That we could sit down together and talk. That I could take the grandchildren for coffee, or just to the playground. If the day comes when the door opens wider, I will be here.
My weakness and my strength
I know that my ability to forgive is both good and bad. It makes me vulnerable to being hurt again, but it also makes me whole within myself. I dare to feel love, even when someone has hurt me. I forget and let you stand there once more. The hurt is gone, and for me it is so much more beautiful to live in friendship and love than to be bitter and angry.
Vulnerability and strength in the same image. To be seen – both blessing and burden
The everyday anchor
I am also an everyday anchor for children who have needed a place to land. For me, it is not a title. It is about opening the door, opening the heart, and saying: here you are welcome. Here you can feel at home.
My painting – as multifaceted as life itself. A space where every feeling belongs
Many children have lived here for a period and found a home. It became their home, and even as adults, we are still a safe place for them. Perhaps that is my greatest strength – to remain, to create a home, to choose love even when storms are raging.
Small moments that mean the most
Happiness lives in the small moments:
the laughter around the dinner table
the whispered “I love you” before bedtime
or that quiet second when I actually manage to just pause and breathe.
Those moments remind me that I am more than my diagnosis. I am a mother who tries, who falls, who rises, and keeps going. And still I carry gratitude for those small everyday moments.
FAQ – ADHD in everyday life
What does it mean to live with ADHD as an adult? Many adults with ADHD describe a daily life full of intensity. It can mean difficulties with planning, concentration, and structure, but also a strong energy, creativity, and an ability to think in new ways.
Can ADHD also be a strength? Yes. ADHD can bring qualities like creativity, problem-solving skills, curiosity, and energy. For many, these strengths become an important part of both work life and family life.
How can you support a parent with ADHD? By showing understanding and patience. It also makes a difference when you acknowledge their strengths – not just their challenges. Practical support in everyday life, structure, and open conversations can be crucial.
Reflection
Living with ADHD is living intensely. Sometimes too much, sometimes just enough. But by writing and sharing my story, I remind myself – and perhaps also you – that we are not alone.
Closing words
This is my story. One of many. About ADHD, about motherhood, and about living a life where chaos and love share the same roof.
Yesterday has already laid down to rest in history, tomorrow is waiting further ahead. But right now – this is where life happens. – Carina Ikonen Nilsson
Between the lines – my voice
In this text, I show both longing and strength. I carry the fear of being left outside, but also the warmth of a hug that lingers. Words and colors become my way of holding on to love. I remain, with both pain and hope – and I choose to live in what is, right now.
AHA – between the lines
I am a mother, grandmother, and creator. I choose love, even when it hurts. I stay, I create, I love – and within that, my strength lives.
My neighbor creates wonderful children’s films on YouTube – videos that both entertain and teach. Perfect little moments of learning and curiosity for kids. Click here to watch: Watch the children’s film here
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