Etikett: Adult responsibility

An empty classroom with sunlight streaming through the windows and the words “Compulsory Learning and Adult Responsibility in Schools” written on the chalkboard – symbolizing responsibility, work environment, and learning.

Compulsory Learning and Adult Responsibility in Schools

When Education Becomes a Matter of Responsibility – Not Just Attendance

Introduction
I have seen and experienced what happens when adults can no longer cope.
When life breaks down, when energy fades, and nothing feels meaningful anymore.

Read this post in Swedish: Läroplikt och vuxenansvar i skolan


When you’ve been strong and capable for too long.
I believe that an entire generation of teachers risks ending up there unless we start seeing thirty students in one classroom for what it truly is — a problem.
Because compulsory learning is not only about the child’s duty to learn, but about our adult responsibility to create real conditions for learning.

A teacher trying to manage thirty students in a small classroom as everyone raises their hand – illustrating the challenge of compulsory learning and adult responsibility in schools.

A Conversation on Facebook

It all began with a political motion proposing compulsory learning instead of compulsory schooling.
The idea sounded good.
Children should not just attend school – they should actually learn.

I wrote in the comments:

It would make more sense to make it a teacher’s duty to explore how each student can reach their goals.
Every kind of learning begins with motivation. Motivation beats class size, and it’s the teacher’s task to find that motivation so the student can learn.
A failing grade should sometimes be seen as a sign that the teacher failed to explore the student’s motivation.

A teacher replied:

How can one teacher manage thirty students if everyone needs individual teaching?

And that was where my thoughts began to grow.


It’s Not the Children’s Fault

When a teacher asks that question – “How can I handle thirty students?”
my answer is this:
It’s not the children’s fault. It’s ours.

Thirty students in one classroom is not a child’s problem – it’s a work environment problem.
And it’s an adult responsibility.

The teacher who sees that it’s impossible to reach everyone must be able to say it aloud:

“I can’t manage this, I need more resources.”

If she doesn’t, she risks becoming the one who carries too much in silence –
until her body gives up.
Burnout, sick leave, and eventually leaving a profession she once loved.

No one wants that future – not the teacher, not the children, not society.


Compulsory Learning and Adult Responsibility in Practice

In Sweden we have compulsory schooling – children must attend school.
In Finland they have compulsory learning – children must learn.

The difference might seem small, but in practice it’s huge.
In Finland, compulsory learning doesn’t mean each child gets one-on-one lessons.
It means that adults take individual responsibility for ensuring that every child can learn.

Teachers there have fewer students per class, more resources, and real support when something doesn’t work.
They have time to understand how each child learns – not just to follow a schedule.
Compulsory learning becomes a shared responsibility, not a burden placed on the child’s shoulders.


Adult Responsibility Begins in the Classroom

I believe it all starts there – in the classroom itself.
That’s where the teacher stands, with thirty different children, thirty different lives.

That’s where adult responsibility must come alive.
The courage to say:

“This isn’t working. Something needs to change.”

That is strength, not weakness.
It’s the first step toward creating a school that truly works – for both children and adults.

Structure and Balance in Everyday Life – A Morning Reflection


Compulsory Learning Requires Adult Responsibility

We cannot talk about children’s obligation to learn
without talking about adults’ obligation to create the conditions for learning.

We need to talk about resources, time, and work environment.
Children don’t learn better under pressure –
they learn when someone stops, listens, and sees how they learn.

If we are to speak about compulsory learning,
then let’s also introduce compulsory responsibility
a duty to see, to understand, and to stand up.


Reflection

I believe every child wants to learn.
But not all can learn in the same way, at the same pace, or under the same circumstances.
And that’s exactly why we need adults who can carry the responsibility –
not hand it to the children.


Between the Lines – My Voice

I’ve seen what happens when adults go silent.
When someone tries to hold together something that just won’t hold.
But I’ve also seen what happens when someone dares to speak up.
That’s where change begins – in the courage to stand up, not just to endure.


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A personal reflection on compulsory learning and adult responsibility in schools.
Thirty students in one classroom is not the children’s fault – it’s an adult and societal responsibility that demands the courage to say, “I can’t manage this.”


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Closing Words

Yesterday has already settled into history, and tomorrow waits further ahead.
But right now – this is where life happens. – Carina Ikonen Nilsson

Oskar Series – Understanding


Morning

Morning again, and with my coffee beside me come thoughts of the Oskar Series understanding – how we meet, learn, and grow as adults.
The two lamps that once belonged to my grandmother cast a warm light in the darkness. The cat is outside, the house still asleep, and the morning is calm.

Read this in Swedish ->Oskar serien bemötande och vuxenansvar i vardagen

Today I will wrap the Christmas gifts my daughter and I bought in Ullared – a day filled with laughter, bargains, and reflection.
At the same time, my thoughts wander to the Oskar Series understanding and adult responsibility – how we, as adults, can meet children with empathy and help them grow in their abilities.

Coffee cup in morning light – reflection on the Oskar Series, understanding, and adult responsibility

This post is a personal reflection, inspired by experiences and thoughts about adult responsibility and the way we meet others.
It is not about a specific event, but about the inner process that awakens when we want to protect – and then realize how important it is to meet with calm and understanding.


A Day in Ullared

The trip to Ullared became more than just shopping. We found shoes, clothes, boots, and gifts – almost everything ready for December.
I even made a real find: a pair of Sketchers boots that usually cost around 1,500 SEK, but there – only 800.
They were so comfortable that it was impossible not to buy them.

My little boy got new pajamas, clothes, and a cap that made him happy.
My little girl received a few small Christmas gifts and a pair of cool boots.
It was a long day – we left home at seven in the morning and didn’t return until nine in the evening.
But now almost all the gifts are wrapped, and the feeling of being prepared brings a quiet peace.

Have you ever felt that mix of exhaustion and gratitude after a long, good day?


When the Tiger in Me Awoke – a Thought on the Oskar Series and Adult Responsibility

In the middle of everyday joy, something unexpected happened.
An email, not particularly kind, awakened something inside me – the tiger.
Suddenly, all the children I’ve ever met stood before me.
Not only my own, but also the young people I’ve had the privilege to work with over the years.

It was about understanding and adult responsibility.
About how adults sometimes put the blame on children – as if they alone carried the weight of what went wrong.
I felt my whole being rise up.
For me, it’s clear that when we work with children, we adults always carry the greatest responsibility.
We are the ones who must see, listen, and understand.

Children don’t misbehave out of malice. They act in the only way they can – based on their experiences, their capacities, and the safety or uncertainty that adults have created around them.
Do you recognize that feeling, when your concern for a child wakes the lion within you?


Afterward – Oskar Series, Understanding, and Adult Responsibility

In hindsight, I regret my own behavior.
I let the tiger take over and, for a moment, forgot my responsibility as an adult.
I should have stood firmer in myself and spoken about what really matters – the adult responsibility.
To create conditions for children to grow in their ability, not to remind them of what they cannot yet do.

In reflection, I see how I would rather have met the situation with a calm, soft voice.
I wish I had said:

“I want us to find solutions. How can we, together, help, see, and allow the child to grow? What can I do to make things easier? What is my responsibility?”

I wish I had offered to come, to explain what works and what doesn’t.
I wish I had said:

“We’re doing this together. I am in my role and you in yours – is there something we can do to make the path easier?”

Being an adult means carrying the ultimate responsibility: to meet children with respect, patience, and belief in their potential.

At the same time, I believe reflection is something we all need – even the other adult in that situation.
Sometimes we are so busy defending our own perspective that we forget to pause, breathe, and see the child together.
I should have invited the other person into the dance of reflection – that quiet movement where curiosity replaces defense.
But I didn’t. Perhaps it’s because I haven’t yet learned to dance, and that’s exactly what I need to practice.

When I read that email, I suddenly saw all the children I’ve met – those who struggled, those who carried heavy things.
I could almost feel them standing behind me, whispering: Don’t forget us. Keep speaking for us.
That’s what the Oskar Series, understanding, and adult responsibility is really about – seeing the child behind each reaction and realizing that we all have something to learn.


Oskar Knocks Again! Oskar Series, Understanding, and Adult Responsibility in Everyday Life

All these words – they’re really about little Oskar.
You know, Oskar from the NPF & School series, now resting for a while.
Maybe it’s him knocking again?
Perhaps it’s time to continue writing – about how important it is that we adults take our responsibility, dare to see the child behind the behavior, and stay present in the meeting.

How often do your own “Oskar moments” knock at the door? Those moments when your heart says: See the child behind the words.

Read more posts in The Oskar Series – NPF & School
and be inspired by Kay Pollak’s reflections on responsibility and human connection.


AHA

Sometimes our strongest reactions don’t come from anger but from love – from the wish to protect.
Yet the way back to calm reminds me of something even more important: even adults, just like in the Oskar Series, understanding, and adult responsibility, must keep practicing how to grow.


Between the Lines

When calm returns and the tiger within me rests, I see that it’s not about winning a war, but about understanding why we react as we do – and what that reveals about what we care to protect.
It also reminds me that my own reaction must remain calm.
For all the children who once stood before me, hoping I would keep fighting for them – I need that calm.
Because it’s in calmness that the real work can be done, it’s there that change begins.


Reflection

Now the coffee stands beside me again. The soft glow from my grandmother’s lamps fills the room.
The day lies untouched before me, with wrapping paper and ribbons waiting.
Outside, the sky begins to brighten.

Maybe it’s Oskar whispering: See me, understand me – I’m just trying to make it through another day.
And I whisper back: I’ll keep practicing being the adult – the one who helps you grow.
That’s part of the Oskar Series, understanding, and adult responsibility – a daily exercise in seeing, understanding, and growing together.

What This Taught Me

This meeting – between emotion and responsibility – became a reminder that calm isn’t always there from the start, but it can always be found again.
I learned that adults, too, need to keep practicing how to grow, to face their own reactions, and to choose presence instead of defense.
Perhaps it’s right there, in the stillness after the storm, that real learning happens – for both the children and for us adults.

malix.se/ Carina Ikonen Nilsson

Live today, right now.
The day before yesterday was the tiger, yesterday the reflection, today the action, and tomorrow will be the rest.
Maybe I’ve already learned something – perhaps even right now.

– Carina Ikonen Nilsson

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This text is a personal reflection, not a description of any specific person, place, or situation. Its purpose is to inspire understanding and shared responsibility in how we meet children.


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