KonMari in everyday life can change more than expected. Sick days turned into tidier closets, my son’s humor brought Volbeat on vinyl, and the Oskar series moves forward with a story about school recess and the dream of a better school.
The little one has been sick for a few days, so we’ve mostly stayed indoors. Still, the days tend to blur together when you’re just hanging around. Every morning I write down my goals – a to-do list for the day – but often they remain untouched.
Eventually, though, something happens. Suddenly I had energy, and this time it went straight into the closet.
KonMari in Everyday Life and the Feeling of Order
That messy closet has been staring at me for ages. With the KonMari method in mind, I started folding, sorting, and creating some breathing space. Maybe not much ended up in the donation pile, but still, it felt different: airy, lighter, more structured.
Not finished yet, but tank tops, t-shirts, and sweaters are folded with KonMari in everyday life. Next step: shirts ironed, folded, and more shelves for dresses to hang beside.
Therefore, even doing the laundry down in the basement feels better now. And there in the basement stands my old stereo system, collecting dust. Even though it has been unused for years, I’ve held on to it. Maybe it’s finally time to let it go? After all, we have the new record player in the living room – simple, wireless through Bluetooth, and so much easier than all those cables.
My Son’s Humor and the Gentleman in the Sofa
A few days ago, my son came home with a vinyl. A double LP by Volbeat. He had a grin on his face and pretended nothing was going on. I was in the kitchen stirring pots when he suddenly called out: – Carina, you’ve got a gentleman visitor on the sofa.
I looked confused. “No, I don’t,” I replied. But he insisted. When I walked into the living room, there they were: two records, neatly placed in my spot on the sofa. A rather quiet company – but then, once we put one of them on, the room filled with life, energy, and a wonderful noise.
My son’s gift – Volbeat on vinyl, humorously introduced as “gentleman visitors” in the sofa.
I must admit, Volbeat hadn’t been something I listened to actively before. At least not until now. But since these records moved in, they’ve spun many times. My son’s humor in how he presented them made it even more fun. To receive “gentleman visitors” in the form of vinyls – that’s top-notch humor in my book.
Our music wall at home – Volbeat on the turntable and other vinyl favorites in the room.
Oskar Series and Next Week’s Post
Today, I don’t have many big plans except to keep working on the next part of the Oskar series. This time it’s about school recess – those moments that should have been free and fun, but instead often became a struggle.
One of my own pencil drawings – for me it symbolizes how a child may withdraw when the world becomes too much. In the Oskar series, I want to show that behind every silence there is a story we need to listen to.
When I read through what I had written, tears came to my eyes. Maybe it says more about me than the text itself, but still, I believe it will touch hearts. I want to show both the difficulties and a kind of utopia: imagine if recess could become a place where adults joined in, where play was something everyone was invited into, and where children could feel seen and safe.
That’s why I feel this next post is one of the most important I’ve written in the series so far.
Do you usually make lists for your days? Do you stick to them – or do they end up like mine, lying around?
What do you fill your days with when you’re not working? Here, I fill mine with blogging, supporting young people, keeping the home in order, and cooking. And sometimes, I even find space to enjoy life, take care of myself, and feel good.
Reflection
The strange thing is how sick days can turn into days of change. Sometimes all it takes is a folded shirt, a tidied drawer, or a vinyl that surprises you – and suddenly, life feels lighter to live.
AHA – Between the Lines
Creating order in the closet is not just practical. It also becomes a symbol of making space in life – for new records, new laughter, and new stories.
Motivating circumstances and invisible support start long before the lesson begins. Whether Oskar has slept well, eaten breakfast, suffers from a headache, or carries worry with him – all of it shapes what the day will bring. In this part of the Oskar Series, I want to highlight how adults can read the daily form, find the core of motivation, and be the invisible support that truly makes a difference.
In the previous parts of the Oskar Series, I wrote about children’s unique strengths (Part 1) and about how small everyday demands, like tying shoelaces, can overshadow what really matters (Part 2). Now I want to take the next step and talk about something I often repeat when I lecture:
Motivation Beats Class
Already in Freud’s time, it was said: without motivation, we do nothing. This is just as true today. All the methods, rules, and lesson plans in the world don’t matter if the child doesn’t feel motivated.
For Oskar, it is never enough that adults say “you have to.” He needs a reason. And that reason must come from within himself – his interests, his daily form, and his energy.
When we find his motivation, we also find Oskar.
Pencil drawing of a child in a hoodie sitting quietly by the water – a symbol of Oskar’s need for motivating circumstances and invisible support
Understanding Motivating Circumstances and Invisible Support
Oskar’s energy doesn’t start in the classroom. It starts the evening before. Did he sleep well or was he awake half the night? Did he eat breakfast or come to school hungry? Does he have a headache, or did the morning begin with conflict at home?
All these small details become motivating circumstances. They determine whether he can tie his shoes, take part in group work, or even enter the classroom.
That means we adults need to be curious about Oskar every single day. What is he carrying with him today? Sometimes this information even needs to come earlier – through good collaboration between home and school. When teachers know that the night was restless or breakfast ended in chaos, they can adjust their expectations and responses.
Understanding daily form is not about giving excuses – it is about giving us, the adults, the opportunity to adapt and provide the right invisible support.
Motivation as a Bridge
Motivation can never be forced. But we can find it in Oskar’s interests – world records, facts, statistics. When we use those, motivation becomes a bridge between his world and ours.
Instead of saying: “You have to join P.E.”, we can say: “Could you measure the jumps and keep the statistics?”
Suddenly, Oskar is involved – in his own way.
Invisible Support – and the Relationship as the Foundation
Invisible support is most important when the daily form is at its lowest. When everything has gone wrong, when his energy is gone, and when Oskar no longer has the strength to try.
That support doesn’t say: “You failed again.” It says: “That was an attempt. Let’s try again.”
Sometimes it means just sitting beside him. Sometimes it means being a playmate – because learning also happens through games and moments of play.
But no matter the form, one thing is more important than all else: the relationship. Without a relationship, no method or manual will work. The relationship is A and O – the starting point for both safety and motivation.
Questions for You as a Reader
Do you believe motivation is more important than demands – or are there things every child must learn?
Have you seen a child grow when someone embraced their interest?
How can adults become better at recognizing when it is the right day – and when it is not?
Between the Lines
This is not about shoelaces or rules. It is about daring to see the child and ask: What makes you want to?Motivating circumstances and invisible support are not requirements – they are keys.
Reflection
We cannot control a child’s daily form. But we can control our response. And when we find motivation, we also find the paths that both we and the child can walk together.
Yesterday has already settled into history, tomorrow is waiting in the distance. But right now – this is where life happens. – Carina Ikonen Nilsson
FAQ – The Oskar Series Part 3
What do motivating circumstances mean? They are the conditions that make a child able and willing to participate. For Oskar, it could be having slept well, eaten breakfast, or avoiding a headache. It also requires curious adults and collaboration between home and school.
Why is motivation more important than demands? Because without motivation, nothing happens. Demands may create resistance, while motivation opens doors to learning, participation, and growth.
What does “Motivation beats class” mean? It reminds us that even the best classroom and the best teaching will miss the mark if the child lacks motivation. Motivation is always the foundation for learning.
How can Oskar be supported through invisible support? By being present even when things fall apart. It could mean sitting quietly nearby, playing a game, or saying: “That was an attempt – let’s try again.” Above all, it is built on relationship.
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