Etikett: Reflection and self-healing

Autumn Day of Stillness – Rain and Love in Everyday Life

Autumn day of stillness – rain and love. Early morning coffee, a gentle candle flame and memories of grandmother and great-grandmother set the tone for a day filled with quiet reflection and everyday warmth.

Read this post in Swedish ->Höstdag i stillhet – regn och kärlek i vardagen

Morning light and a quiet start

Autumn day of stillness – rain and love frames my early morning. It is 5:22 a.m. when the coffee sends up its fresh aroma and warms my hands as I write. I have lit my grandmother’s wall lamps on her small sideboard where photographs of the grandchildren stand. The soft glow falls across their faces, as if the furniture itself wants to watch over those we love.
Beside the lamps, a small live candle burns gently. Its steady flame keeps me company and adds warmth to the dark dawn.

Autumn day of stillness – rain and love. Grandmother’s and great-grandmother’s sideboard glowing with candlelight and family photos.
Grandmother’s and great-grandmother’s sideboard with family memories and warm light.

Inside this sideboard my grandmother and great-grandmother meet. In life they never fully agreed, yet here they rest side by side. My grandmother’s little ornaments remind me of her, and between them lie my daughter’s drawings and family photos. This also brings back memories of my great-grandmother’s own sideboard – with a big clock that chimed every half and full hour and photographs of her children and grandchildren.

This morning it feels clear: both of these women live on in me. Two strong, loving presences whose memory deepens my day.

The cat has already slipped out into the darkness. Because more rain is expected, we may choose to stay home. We had first thought of a weekend trip with the motorhome, but a rainy weekend feels less inviting. Instead, it seems wiser to settle into autumn at home – stocking up on candles, cooking food that smells of comfort, and perhaps lighting the first fire of the term in the wood-burning stove.


Autumn day of stillness – rain and a rhythm of care

Yesterday unfolded at the gentle pace that only rain can bring.
Our little one came home in the middle of the school day – soaked from recess – to change clothes. We laughed at how wet they were, wetter than after any washing machine cycle. So we put them in a bucket to drip dry, and then he returned to school warm and dry again.

It felt precious to welcome him home, even for a brief moment. Such everyday care carries so much love.


A city errand and hidden stories

Later we drove into town. He had things to do, and I used the time to enjoy a sunbed and pick up groceries. When I was done, he still wasn’t finished.
Therefore I stopped, hungry, at Charli Chaplin for a kebab plate. It was edible but far from memorable. Having once run a small food stand myself, I could taste potatoes that had stayed too long in the warmer, meat past its peak and watery tomatoes.

While waiting, I sat in the car knitting and watching people move at their own speed. An elderly lady parked in front of me and then drove away. I wondered: When I reach her age, will I still dare to drive? What does her day look like, and who waits for her at home?

Right there, in the quiet of the car, a feeling of tenderness for all the stories of life opened up – the ones we know and the ones we can only guess at. Every person carries a story, in both light and shadow, and simply telling it has its own worth.


Autumn day of stillness – when sorrow makes room for love

Often when I write, a note of sorrow slips in. Perhaps because sorrow is always nearby – a gentle background between chaos and order.
My own sorrow at feeling set aside sometimes stirs. It cuts and hurts, but I let it guide neither day nor heart. Some days are heavy, yet more and more often I return to this truth:
another person’s actions can never measure my worth.

And within that sorrow lives so much love – for my grandchildren, and for our little one who is learning to trust. He knows that when things do not turn out as planned, he can always come home. When he says, “Carina, we need to talk,” I hear a longing for comfort and warmth. He wants to feel that someone listens and understands, someone who stands on his side and can say:
“It’s okay, I hear you. You wished for something else, or you feel… You need this moment. Sometimes life is like that. We will find a way together.”

That love – to truly be there and to listen – carries me through the days.


Between the lines – my voice

This post speaks about letting love hold steady even while sorrow remains. It is about carrying one’s roots in the heart – grandmother and great-grandmother, their scents and memories – and about passing the same warmth to the next generation.


AHA – between the lines

In the simple things hides the depth of life: cooling coffee, a bucket of wet clothes, an old sideboard and a small candle. Each shows how love moves silently through generations, enriching even rainy days.


Your Voice: Between the Lines

Between the lines is an invitation:
Pause. Breathe in the coffee’s aroma. Remember those who carry you. Allow joy and sorrow to share the same space.
It whispers that none of us must walk alone through life’s shifting seasons.


FAQ text – Autumn day of stillness

This post belongs to the collection Reflection & Self-Healing.
Here I gather writings on how to meet life when it holds both sorrow and love, how to find calm in everyday moments, and how to carry memories forward through generations.

Questions for you, dear reader

  • How do you find calm on a rainy day?
  • Which women or ancestors do you carry with you in your heart?
  • How do you offer comfort when someone says, “We need to talk”?

Reflection

Yesterday’s rain offered a slow rhythm. This morning I feel gratitude for quiet moments, for my family, and for the women who showed me that love is something you carry within – never something that runs out.

Yesterday has already found rest in history, tomorrow waits ahead. But right now – this is where life happens.


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ADHD in Everyday Life – Family and Cooking

Sometimes everyday life takes unexpected turns. A phone call from my daughter before her trip to Greece turned into hours in the kitchen, lots of food – and a reminder of how ADHD in everyday life, family and cooking often means that feelings run ahead of logic.

Read this in Swedish-> ADHD i vardagen – familj och matlagning i vardagen.


Here and now

Right now, I’m sitting here with my laptop on my lap and a cup of coffee beside me. Words arrive as the morning slowly wakes. Let me start by saying thank you – thank you for stopping by and reading this. Your presence here means more than you might realize.


When my daughter called

Yesterday, as I was sitting at home, my daughter called. They were leaving for Greece the next day and wondered if they could stop by for dinner before the trip. Of course, I said yes without hesitation. Both she and I are quite spontaneous, so the decision was made: let’s do it.


The cooking begins

When my husband reminded me that we probably needed more food, I went off to the store. As usual, I went all in – I wanted to make sure there would be more than enough.

Back in the kitchen, I started preparing:

zatziki in preparation – yogurt, garlic and cucumber in a bowl
Tzatziki in preparation – yogurt, garlic and cucumber in a bowl

On one tray, I placed root vegetables and potatoes, seasoned with thyme, chili and other spices.

Meanwhile, the chicken fillets were marinated in charred chili, garlic, olive oil and salt.

In addition, I made a classic tzatziki and a yogurt-based dip with garlic and chili. I’ve made tzatziki many times before, for example in this post about everyday cooking (in Swedish) – sorry, it’s only available in Swedish right now, but I might translate it later.
Meanwhile, a soup was simmering on the stove.

Selective eating and ADHD in everyday life

The soup was mostly for my oldest son. Because he eats quite selectively, whole pieces of meat are out of the question – they have to be in a sauce for him to try. Serving a whole chicken is therefore never an option. However, soup works well, which is why it’s always there as an alternative for him.

Plastic containers in the fridge with soups and meals adapted for selective eating
Plastic containers in the fridge with soups and meals adapted for selective eating

Over the years, we have often cooked large batches of the few dishes he prefers. Therefore, the fridge is almost always filled with plastic containers: Bolognese, taco mince and chicken stew – his safest flavors. Now he is an adult, soon 29, but the selective eating remains.

Selective eating is not unusual, especially among children and young people with neurodivergence. For some, it continues into adulthood. It may be about texture, smell or the feeling in the mouth. For my son, soup is a safe way – flavors mix but the consistency stays smooth. Understanding that, and adjusting meals accordingly, makes everyday life easier and mealtimes less stressful.

The kitchen was filled with aromas, pots and movement. So much was happening all at once.


ADHD in everyday life – when feelings run ahead of logic

In the middle of it all, the thought struck me: my youngest had recently had a fever and was still sniffling. Could they really come here and risk getting sick just before leaving for Greece?

This was not a decision I could make on my own. I left it to my daughter and her partner – and they decided to stay at home. I don’t know if it was her decision or his, but I was grateful that I realized it in time. I would never want to be the reason they spent their vacation sick.

And that’s where ADHD makes itself known, as it often does. Often, I get an idea, go all in and keep going. Only when everything is nearly finished do I stop and think: wait a minute, how did this actually turn out?

It’s not a lack of care – quite the opposite. It’s just that feelings always come first, logic later. The result is often a kitchen full of food, movement and strong aromas.

Sometimes chaos, sometimes order. But somewhere in between there is also beauty.


Reflection

That dinner never happened – but it still became important. In the kitchen I was reminded of my own impulsivity, and I also felt that I had done the right thing. I managed to stop in time. Maybe that’s what life is – full of tripwires, but with space for care.


Between the Lines

This post isn’t just about food or a dinner that never happened. Between the lines, it tells about love for family, about the wish to give and protect, and about how ADHD shapes everyday life. It also shows that selective eating isn’t something children always grow out of, but something that can follow into adulthood – and that understanding and adapting can create calmer moments for everyone around the table.

At its core, this is a story about care: rushing ahead with heart and feelings first, and only afterwards letting logic catch up.


AHA – Between the Lines

Even when I run on feelings, I can still land in something good. What matters isn’t perfection – but realizing in time.ll land in something good. What matters isn’t perfection – but realizing in time.


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”Yesterday has already come to rest in history, tomorrow is waiting further ahead. But right now – this is where life happens.” – Carina Ikonen Nilsson


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