This is a text that carries my core values. For me, it is about hating the action, not the person – and about how we choose to meet one another.
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You Can Hate the Action – But Not the Human Being
You can hate what was done.
You can hate the words that caused pain.
You can hate what hurt and what left marks.
But the person behind the action is something else.
And I believe much of this begins at home.
What were you taught when something difficult happened at school?
What did your parents say when you came home in tears?
Did they say it was someone else’s fault – that “those kinds of children are just like that”?
Or did they pause and reflect a little longer?
Perhaps the child who bullied was also a child carrying something heavy.
An insecure little boy or girl without safety at home.
A child without words for their fear, letting it out instead through harsh words or actions.
Maybe that child needed someone to look beyond the behaviour.
Not to excuse it – but to understand it.
Not to remove responsibility – but to see the pain.
As adults, I believe we sometimes need to respond with concern rather than hatred.
Concern for the child who hurts.
Concern for what lies beneath.
What was her home like?
Where were the adults meant to hold her?
Who saw him when no one else did?
What we carry from home shapes not only how we see others –
but how we see ourselves.
When we look beyond behaviour, the world becomes a little less harsh.
Perhaps that is where responsibility truly begins.
In daring to see more than what appears.
In reacting firmly when something is wrong – yet with humanity toward the one who did it.
This is not an easy path. And in the most painful and extreme situations, it may even feel impossible. But in everyday life, it is a direction I try to hold.
Hating the action but not the human being is not an easy path –
but it is the one I try to walk.
Bullying, Hate and Human Encounters
Carina Ikonen Nilsson – Malix
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