So here I am, writing. Finally – ADHD in everyday life can look like this.
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✍️ Preface
The blog was acting up this morning. Some plugin keeps crashing everything.
Yesterday I was out knocking on doors again with the Social Democrats. After that, they had a meeting and I listened with interest.
And then the blog crashes again…
and my ADHD brain just blanks out.
I remember last year when the whole blog broke.
A full week of me and AI trying to fix it.
In the end, I found a really kind guy at Loopia who helped me sort it out.
So now I realise I might have to call Loopia again –
and hope that nice guy still works there.
But right now, it works.
And that’s why this text still gets written.
🧠 ADHD in everyday life – what’s going on inside
Today I’m writing about ADHD.
It’s Tuesday.
The day I try to put words to what’s happening –
on the inside.
And today I connect it to the garden.
To the raised beds in the front yard that I’ve been working on all week.
🌧️ When the rain comes – and everything wakes up
When the rain comes…
something shifts.
I look out the window.
And suddenly it’s not just weather anymore.
It’s ADHD.
It’s stress.
It’s that creeping feeling of panic.
And then they come…
all the old experiences.
Whispering:
“We’ve been here before.”
“You won’t manage this.”
“You never finish what you start.”
“It will all fall apart again.”
And then that question:
Who do you think you are, believing you can do it differently this time?
🧍♀️ The little girl in ADHD
And there she is.
The little girl.
The one who never managed those last steps.
The one who always got it wrong.
The one who learned that what she did was never enough.
That she… wasn’t enough.
That she might be the most failed person of all.
🧠 What research says about ADHD
What I experience is not imagined.
Research shows that ADHD affects what are called executive functions – the brain’s ability to:
- plan
- prioritise
- finish what you start
- handle setbacks
It also involves neurotransmitters like dopamine.
When they don’t work as they should, motivation and the feeling of reward become harder to access.
That’s why it can be:
- easy to start
- hard to continue
- and even harder to finish
Especially when something goes wrong.
Research also shows that many people with ADHD struggle with emotional regulation –
feelings hit harder and faster.
And that’s where the rain becomes more than just rain.
☀️ But the sun came back
But the rain stopped.
And the sun came out.
And there I was again.
Back in my project.
My way.
And I kept going.
Branches in the bed.
Some grass clippings.
Some wood chips.
The compost is almost emptied.
One bed is already filled and will rest until next time.
Bags of soil still need to be bought.
And in the middle of it all, I realise…
🔄 ADHD in everyday life – when the mind gets stuck
…that I missed something.
I should have put in the ground fabric.
Stapled it inside the raised bed.
I had a plan –
with white stones around it.
And now…
Now my brain freezes.
It says:
“You have to redo everything.”
“It’s all wrong.”
“This was pointless.”
And just like that…
the words disappear.
🔄 When focus shifts – in the middle of everything
In the middle of everything yesterday, while digging soil from the compost, I suddenly realised I had lost track of what I was actually doing.
The raised beds.
Instead, I was standing in the slope where my flowers grow, pulling weeds I happened to notice.
You know…
like spotting a squirrel.
And suddenly, you’re there.
When I noticed, I grabbed the wheelbarrow again and went back to digging compost for soil.
But that led me into cleaning up the compost itself instead.
And that’s ADHD.
One step.
Turns into two.
Turns into something completely different.
🧠 ADHD in everyday life – awareness in the middle of the chaos
But something was different this time.
I paused.
I saw myself and thought:
“This is good… but this is not what I’m doing right now.”
The soil needs to go to the raised beds.
That’s the actual focus.
I turned the compost, so the newest layer is now at the bottom.
And then, as always, my brain starts solving problems:
The white stones I planned…
maybe they should be grey instead?
Then it won’t be as visible that I forgot the fabric.
Grey on grey.
The house is grey.
The foundation too.
🌱 Not perfect – but enough
And somewhere there, something settles.
This is not a work of art.
I’m not creating perfection.
I’m creating a place to grow potatoes.
🌱 But here is the difference
Because something actually is different now.
I stay.
I don’t walk away completely.
I don’t give up everything.
I see what went wrong –
but I also see what actually got done.
And maybe…
maybe that’s where the change lives.
Not in getting everything right.
But in staying anyway.
💭 Reflection
ADHD in everyday life is not just about starting.
It’s about staying when it gets uncomfortable.
When your thoughts tell you it’s over.
But something inside still whispers:
“Try one more time.”
❓ A question for you
Do you recognise that voice that says everything is ruined –
even when it’s only slightly off?
🧡 Between the lines – my voice
This isn’t really about raised beds.
Not really.
It’s about daring to believe you’re allowed to try again.
Even when your past tells you something else.
And maybe…
that little girl isn’t standing alone anymore.
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✨ Closing words
Live today, right now.
Yesterday rests in history,
and tomorrow waits somewhere ahead.
But right now –
this is where life happens.
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